Tuesday, January 27, 2015

Things That Made Me Smile #2

My last few blog posts have been rather serious and slightly upsetting for me to write. So I thought I would make a post about some happy things that I've been enjoying lately!

1. Friends. Lately my friends have been simply the best! Even though I haven't been in the best mood and have been subjecting them to long chats and cries about my life they don't complain at all about it. They have been there for me through all the mess that I've gone through recently and I absolutely adore them for it! So to all those people, thank you so much my dears ^_^

2. Kitties. Do I really need to say anything else? One of my friends has 2 cats at his house so whenever we hang out I spend a majority of my time just cuddling with them. The one pictured about is named Chester ^^

3. Unexpected snowfalls. We got some more snow yesterday which, if I actually watched the news, probably wouldn't have been that unexpected. However, I don't watch the news so it was a surprise to me and I absolutely loved watching the snow fall outside my window ^_^

4. Last, but certainly not least, is Saturday nights at home. Now that I'm 21 I can go down to the bars in town and there are weekends when that is exactly what my friends and I do. However, this weekend on Saturday my roommate and I bought some ice cream and binge watched Law and Order SVU. Sometimes you just need a chill night at home, don't you agree?

What are some things that have made you smile recently?

P.S. the tea of the day is Oprah Chai ^_^

Saturday, January 17, 2015

Being Lonely vs Being Alone

I have always thought that I was good at being alone. I enjoy spending time alone reading books, watching movies, etc. However, I've realized over the past few days that I enjoyed this because I was happy, or at least content, with my life. 

If you read my last post (here) you know that I had a rather difficult week. I was upset and ended up spending a lot of time alone. I discovered that when I was sad, and had to spend time alone, I simply became lonely. I seemed to be incapable of dealing with my sadness alone. 

I spent three days relatively alone and incredibly lonely. That was when I realized that I was making life worse for myself. I was my own worst enemy. 

When I wrote my last post about letting go it was very cathartic, yet it left me feeling empty. I tried to live what I had spoken about here, but I was finding it very difficult. I finally understood that I wasn't letting myself let go and move on. I was waiting around for someone to pick me up, dust me off, and make everything okay again. 

But only I could do that.

While I wouldn't say I'm completely happy yet (it hasn't even been a week since I was hurt) I feel decent. I know that whether I receive a text, see my friends, or spend time alone doing yoga I will be okay. I better understand the difference between being lonely and being alone. 

Lonely is defined as "standing apart; isolated".

Alone is defined as "without aid or help". 

While the definitions of these two words are similar, there is one key difference. Being lonely isolates you while being alone means you do not need help. It doesn't mean that you don't have people supporting you, simply that you don't NEED them to move forward. You are capable of moving on and being happy on your own, without the aid of other people. 

I think we should all become better at being alone; fully understanding that while the people we love might not be with us every second that doesn't mean we can't be happy. We are capable of being happy without aid or help from others. 

P.S. the tea of the day is a Tiger Chai Latte from a local cafe ^_^

Wednesday, January 14, 2015

The Process of Letting Go

Sometimes life comes around and knocks you down. Someone lies to you, a friend betrays you, you find out someone is not who they said they were. Life kicks you in the stomach and it hurts, a lot. But you know what? Life goes on. 

When you begin a process of letting something go in your life here are a few things to remember.

1. Let yourself cry. Cry a lot. But always remember that the best place to cry is the shower. In the shower you don't have to worry about whose clothes, sheets, or couch you are getting all your face fluids on. So cry in the shower where your face fluids are washed away as soon as they come out of your face.

2. Say what you need to say to feel better. Don't yell at the person or send endless drunk texts about how you now hate them. However, if there is something you want to say that will help your healing process, don't be afraid to say it. If that person isn't going to be in your life anymore what does it matter if they judge you? If it will help you move on you should say it.

3. Rely on your friends. Don't be afraid to let people in. Whether it's your best guy friend, your roommates, or your mom, let someone know how you are feeling. Cry on their shoulder and let them comfort you. Let them make jokes about you ugly crying and laugh through your tears. I promise you it will make you feel better.

4. Remember to take care of your body. Sure, eat that tub of donuts, drink a bunch of wine, eat a pint of ice cream. Just don't let that overwhelm you. Have a day or two where you wallow but then stop. Do some restorative yoga, take a long run, do a juice cleanse. Whatever will make you feel healthy and strong can't hurt you, it can only help you. 

5. Don't let your anger and hurt ruin your life. Keep up on your homework or nail that presentation at work. Don't let yourself fall behind on your personal goals due to another person. Show the world (and the a**hole that hurt you) how tough you are and don't let yourself get knocked down completely. 

6. Remember the good that came from the situation. Let yourself be angry but don't let your anger ruin all your memories. No matter what happened in the present, remember what happened in the past. I can guarantee that you had good times with the person and remember that. You don't know what is going on in that persons life that they felt the need to hurt you so badly. You don't need them in your life anymore, it's not healthy for you, but don't let yourself erase all the good times you had with said person. 

I hope this is helpful to any of you who are going through something tough. What are some of the things you do to let something go?

P.S. the tea of the day is limeade twist ^_^

Tuesday, January 6, 2015

Winter Break

I'm back at school now and all settled in for the first day of classes tomorrow! I had a wonderful break at home with my family and a lovely few days around Chicago with my friend Seter. Here are some snaps of what I got up to around break!

P.S. the tea of the day is raspberry pineapple ^_^

Wednesday, December 31, 2014

New Year, New Goals

Tomorrow is the New Year and I've been thinking hard about what my New Year's resolution(s) will be. The past semester at uni was a tough one for me. With getting back into the flow of American uni and multiple demanding courses, many things in my life were pushed to the back seat. When deliberating about what my resolution would be I found many things weren't necessarily resolutions. They were simply things that I want to move back to an important place in my life with a less challenging semester on the horizon. In the end I found three things that I want to accomplish this year.

1. Take more pictures! I realized towards the end of this year that I barely took any pictures. Part of this has to do with the fact that I took SO MANY pictures in Japan. Now that I am back I simply am not doing as many fascinating things each week. However, I would like to try to bring my camera with me no matter where I am in case I find something that is worth documenting. 

2. Stay on top of my tasks. I realized this year that I had gotten into the habit of working right at the deadline. I would respond to emails weeks after receiving them, turn in forms right at the due date, and finish a paper a few hours before I had to turn it in. While I still managed to do well in classes and I didn't miss anything important, this led to much more stress and less time to do things that I wanted to do. This year I am going to do my best at getting my required items done early. That way I will have more time to blog, watch movies, read, chat with friends, and other fun things ^_^

3. Be more adventurous with my blog! I've had my blog for almost 2 years (!) but I don't think many more people read it than did at the beginning. I think I expected that without putting in any effort to publicize my blog it would just magically gain readers. Obviously, this hasn't happened. In 2015 I want to work hard to make my blog what I dreamed it could be when I first made it. I don't want to be super pushy with my blog. However, I do want to put more effort into maintaining and publicizing it. 

What are you guys going to do to chase your dreams in 2015?

P.S. the tea of the day is oprah chai ^_^

P.P.S. sorry for the lack of pictures in these past posts! I'm going to write another post soon showcasing some of the pictures I have taken over break. 

Saturday, December 27, 2014

Virgin...A Book Review

Welcome back to my blog! I hope everyone is having a wonderful holiday season with their family and friends. I am having a fantastic time laying around my house not doing anything productive! I have just started my fourth book since being at home (#GIRLBOSS by Sophia Amoruso) and therefore have not had much to write about which explains the lack of blog posts. 

If you remember my last post (which can be found here), I discussed some of the many things that I planned to do while I was home. I said I wanted to read Virgin by Radhika Sanghani and I've done it! I liked this book a lot and I felt is covered some important topics. I hope this glowing review will get you to read it as well!

Virgin is the story of a 21 year old university student in London who has not lost her virginity. She feels embarrassed and out of place, not feeling comfortable telling anyone about her virgin status and feeling increasingly desperate to find a guy to deflower her once and for all. 

My original misgivings when I started the book changed as I continued reading; it started like a cheesy teen romance where the girl doesn't fit in and the super cool rich guy falls for her, gives her life a makeover, and makes her finally feel confident enough to accept herself. However, as I continued reading I found this was not the case. The book, although centering on a girl losing her virginity, was not so much about the romance. I was pleasantly surprised to find that it was more about accepting yourself as you are and making bonds with friends (girls or boys) who love you and accept you for who you are. 

Here are a few of the things that I took away from the book:

1. Virginity isn't that big of a deal. Yes, your first time is special and you should only start having sex when you feel comfortable. However, we all need to find our own reasons to either lose it or keep it. Who cares if your friends have all had sex, in the movies people have all had sex, or those with their virginity are seen as "losers". If a girl or a guy is not ready to have sex for the first time, no one should be able to pressure them into being able to do it before they are ready.

2. If things feel strange with a friend, ask what is going on. In the book the main character, Ellie, gets into a fight with one of her best friends. They don't speak for a while and Ellie takes this as proof that her once good friend now hates her. However, she discovers later that her friend was dealing with some other, bigger, drama in her life and didn't know how to tell Ellie. Everything was just a misunderstanding but their friendship almost ended. If things are tense with someone for reasons you think are silly, don't just ignore your friend and wait for them to make the first move. Reach out to them, you never know what might be happening in their lives.

3. Accept your body! Ellie is more curvaceous than most of the girls she hangs out with and she can never accept that she looks as good as they do, simply different. After much pain and many attempts at transforming herself, Ellie finally realizes she looks good the way she is. I think this is one of the most important points the book tries to teach its readers. We are all different, but that doesn't mean that we aren't all beautiful. 

This book is quite short, 294 pages, and it is spaced quite generously. For someone who loves reading Classics (think your high school reading list) it wasn't as intellectual as some of the books I am used to reading. However, I found that this coupled with the humor consistent throughout the book made it incredibly easy to read. 

I would definitely recommend this book to all girls in their 20's. It doesn't matter if you are a virgin/not a virgin/curvy/thin/blond/brunette whatever, this book has a little something for everyone. I wouldn't recommend this for anyone younger than late teens though, since it can get pretty graphic in some areas! 

P.S. the tea of the day is citrus lavender sage ^_^

Saturday, December 13, 2014

Winter Break Lists

Now that my fall semester is officially over and it is winter break, I will be spending my time holed up in my room catching up on all the reading and watching that I wasn't able to do during the semester. Here's a list of some of the things that I will be getting into!

1. This summer I started reading Winter's Tale by Mark Helprin and I absolutely love it! I haven't had the time to enjoy it as much as I should, so I'll be finishing that up over my break.
2. Ever since I read Anthem by Ayn Rand in high school I've wanted to read more of her works. This summer I bought The Fountainhead and I'm so excited to finally be able to dig into that.
3. Kate Mosse is one of my favorite authors and she came out with a new book, Citadel, relatively recently. I'll finally be able to enjoy that!
4. When I was home for Thanksgiving I bought Virgin by Radhika Sanghani. This book looks funny and very relevant for people in their 20's. I'm excited to see if it's as good as I anticipate it to be!

1. I watched the trailer for Before I Go To Sleep a while ago, but I haven't had the time to go see it. Hopefully it's still in theaters by the time I get home!
2. Grand Budapest Hotel! Words can't express how upset I am that I still haven't seen this film.
3. I think I'm going to drag my whole family to see Into the Woods while I am home. What can I say? It has Johhny Depp.
4. I've heard lots of good things about Interstellar and I really want to go check it out for myself

1. I absolutely love Downton Abbey! I haven't been able to watch Season 5 yet, so I will have to speed through that before the new Christmas special comes out
2. I've heard too many amazing things about Orange is the New Black not to watch it. 
3. I watched the first episode of American Horror Story a while ago and it was pretty interesting. I don't usually like horror things but I'm going to give this a try. It could be a terrible idea or it could be great, we'll just have to see
4. I haven't had time to watch the latest season of Game of Thrones yet, so I'll be spending a bunch of time getting caught up on this show.

I'm going to pretend I have enough time to do all these things while I'm home. Between spending time with family and friends and looking for a job it might not happen, but you never know! What are you guys looking forward to doing over winter break?

P.S. the tea of the day is limeade twist...again ^_^