Tuesday, January 27, 2015

Things That Made Me Smile #2

My last few blog posts have been rather serious and slightly upsetting for me to write. So I thought I would make a post about some happy things that I've been enjoying lately!

1. Friends. Lately my friends have been simply the best! Even though I haven't been in the best mood and have been subjecting them to long chats and cries about my life they don't complain at all about it. They have been there for me through all the mess that I've gone through recently and I absolutely adore them for it! So to all those people, thank you so much my dears ^_^

2. Kitties. Do I really need to say anything else? One of my friends has 2 cats at his house so whenever we hang out I spend a majority of my time just cuddling with them. The one pictured about is named Chester ^^

3. Unexpected snowfalls. We got some more snow yesterday which, if I actually watched the news, probably wouldn't have been that unexpected. However, I don't watch the news so it was a surprise to me and I absolutely loved watching the snow fall outside my window ^_^

4. Last, but certainly not least, is Saturday nights at home. Now that I'm 21 I can go down to the bars in town and there are weekends when that is exactly what my friends and I do. However, this weekend on Saturday my roommate and I bought some ice cream and binge watched Law and Order SVU. Sometimes you just need a chill night at home, don't you agree?

What are some things that have made you smile recently?

P.S. the tea of the day is Oprah Chai ^_^

Saturday, January 17, 2015

Being Lonely vs Being Alone

I have always thought that I was good at being alone. I enjoy spending time alone reading books, watching movies, etc. However, I've realized over the past few days that I enjoyed this because I was happy, or at least content, with my life. 

If you read my last post (here) you know that I had a rather difficult week. I was upset and ended up spending a lot of time alone. I discovered that when I was sad, and had to spend time alone, I simply became lonely. I seemed to be incapable of dealing with my sadness alone. 

I spent three days relatively alone and incredibly lonely. That was when I realized that I was making life worse for myself. I was my own worst enemy. 

When I wrote my last post about letting go it was very cathartic, yet it left me feeling empty. I tried to live what I had spoken about here, but I was finding it very difficult. I finally understood that I wasn't letting myself let go and move on. I was waiting around for someone to pick me up, dust me off, and make everything okay again. 

But only I could do that.

While I wouldn't say I'm completely happy yet (it hasn't even been a week since I was hurt) I feel decent. I know that whether I receive a text, see my friends, or spend time alone doing yoga I will be okay. I better understand the difference between being lonely and being alone. 

Lonely is defined as "standing apart; isolated".

Alone is defined as "without aid or help". 

While the definitions of these two words are similar, there is one key difference. Being lonely isolates you while being alone means you do not need help. It doesn't mean that you don't have people supporting you, simply that you don't NEED them to move forward. You are capable of moving on and being happy on your own, without the aid of other people. 

I think we should all become better at being alone; fully understanding that while the people we love might not be with us every second that doesn't mean we can't be happy. We are capable of being happy without aid or help from others. 

P.S. the tea of the day is a Tiger Chai Latte from a local cafe ^_^

Wednesday, January 14, 2015

The Process of Letting Go

Sometimes life comes around and knocks you down. Someone lies to you, a friend betrays you, you find out someone is not who they said they were. Life kicks you in the stomach and it hurts, a lot. But you know what? Life goes on. 

When you begin a process of letting something go in your life here are a few things to remember.

1. Let yourself cry. Cry a lot. But always remember that the best place to cry is the shower. In the shower you don't have to worry about whose clothes, sheets, or couch you are getting all your face fluids on. So cry in the shower where your face fluids are washed away as soon as they come out of your face.

2. Say what you need to say to feel better. Don't yell at the person or send endless drunk texts about how you now hate them. However, if there is something you want to say that will help your healing process, don't be afraid to say it. If that person isn't going to be in your life anymore what does it matter if they judge you? If it will help you move on you should say it.

3. Rely on your friends. Don't be afraid to let people in. Whether it's your best guy friend, your roommates, or your mom, let someone know how you are feeling. Cry on their shoulder and let them comfort you. Let them make jokes about you ugly crying and laugh through your tears. I promise you it will make you feel better.

4. Remember to take care of your body. Sure, eat that tub of donuts, drink a bunch of wine, eat a pint of ice cream. Just don't let that overwhelm you. Have a day or two where you wallow but then stop. Do some restorative yoga, take a long run, do a juice cleanse. Whatever will make you feel healthy and strong can't hurt you, it can only help you. 

5. Don't let your anger and hurt ruin your life. Keep up on your homework or nail that presentation at work. Don't let yourself fall behind on your personal goals due to another person. Show the world (and the a**hole that hurt you) how tough you are and don't let yourself get knocked down completely. 

6. Remember the good that came from the situation. Let yourself be angry but don't let your anger ruin all your memories. No matter what happened in the present, remember what happened in the past. I can guarantee that you had good times with the person and remember that. You don't know what is going on in that persons life that they felt the need to hurt you so badly. You don't need them in your life anymore, it's not healthy for you, but don't let yourself erase all the good times you had with said person. 

I hope this is helpful to any of you who are going through something tough. What are some of the things you do to let something go?

P.S. the tea of the day is limeade twist ^_^

Tuesday, January 6, 2015

Winter Break

I'm back at school now and all settled in for the first day of classes tomorrow! I had a wonderful break at home with my family and a lovely few days around Chicago with my friend Seter. Here are some snaps of what I got up to around break!

P.S. the tea of the day is raspberry pineapple ^_^